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I received an comment from a reader who took offense at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive to the issue of sexual abuse.  I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” with the increasing power of women, not specifically with sexual abuse and my photo was an attempt to humerously reflect this.  All I meant to infer with the photograph was the hen turkey’s power to choose between three toms to mate with, instead of vice versa.  My apologies to anyone I might have offended.

77 responses

  1. I took it as you meant it, Mary.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:07 am

  2. Jonathan Byrd

    Mary,

    I thought it was a great post. I understood what you were trying to get across. Nicely done.

    Jon Byrd

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:09 am

  3. Susan Martin

    This reader understood and appreciated the humor and the message. Thank you for your posts, they enrich my mornings!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:11 am

  4. Sandie Sabaka

    I actually didn’t really get it but wasn’t offended and moved on.
    Happy Thanksgiving 🦃 Mary!

    Sent from my iPhone

    November 21, 2018 at 8:12 am

  5. Clyde

    Ah the world of thin skin.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:13 am

  6. Suzanne

    I got it the way you meant it, Mary, and enjoyed the sentiment and the chuckle. I look at the female and think, “She doesn’t even look the least bit overwhelmed!” Great photo.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:15 am

  7. Vance

    Without humor we are a sorry lot…I was once a victim, now I am a student and have seen how my experience can benefit others.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:15 am

  8. Jan Frazier

    I loved it! Took no offense.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:16 am

  9. Bernie

    I laughed out loud. No matter what “Don Juan” thinks, the ladies always make the choice.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:17 am

  10. Sarah Meyers

    Loved the turkey photo, Mary! Happy Thanksgiving, and thanks for all you give to your faithful readers!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:18 am

  11. Cindy Sabin

    I understood it as you intended!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:18 am

  12. Vicky Linville

    Mary, I, for one, think your turkey post was hilarious and uplifting and it made me smile. I’m a 76 year old female Vermonter who could write a book about the times and the ways I have been targeted by men. All I can say is, that reader who was offended needs to work on a sense of humor. Vicky Linville

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:20 am

  13. Jane Moody

    Anyone who knows you is aware that you would never, ever intentionally offend another. As we work to raise our awareness of how our words and actions can unintentionally cause offense or hurt, we also need to be forgiving of ourselves and others when we slip up. Let’s not stop communicating because we are afraid to speak. I certainly understood your post as you intended.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:21 am

  14. Midge Eliassen

    I took it just as you intended and enjoyed Happy thanksgiving to you and family

    Sent from my iPad

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:22 am

  15. Arleen Hollenhorst

    No worries, Mary. Thanks for being Naturally Curious, and have a Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:24 am

  16. Jennifer Esten

    I, for one, loved your post, and I thought message was clear. Maybe the offended person doesn’t understand animal behavior enough to get it…..

    Jen

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:26 am

  17. Having watched the wild turkeys in my yard for years, I understood your point, and wasn’t offended.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:26 am

  18. Info

    I got a real chuckle from the photo. Sad if anyone took offense to it.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:28 am

  19. Sally

    Good, I’m glad someone else took offense at the crafty little #metoo barb. I’ve just unsubscribed to your letter as much as I’ve enjoyed it.

    Please educate yourself about the hideous danger of the #metoo movement. Nobody in their right mind would endorse this Marxist filth.

    https://imprimis.hillsdale.edu/the-negative-impact-of-the-metoo-movement/

    Some of us have had it to the gills with the horrors of political correctness and Leftist communism, socialism, and the evil of globalism. It is not global warming or climate change we need to be screaming about: it is CLIMATE ENGINEERING that began during LBJ’s administration. https://weathermodificationhistory.com/president-lyndon-johnson-weather-wafare/

    The bald hypocrisy and stupidity of the hoi polloi is absolutely remarkable. Nature should bring us closer to — not farther away from GOD!

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

    Sally Fisher Worthington MA

    November 21, 2018 at 8:29 am

  20. lisalmargosian@gmail.com

    How ridiculous! I thought it was clever!!!

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:31 am

  21. Birdlady

    Sorry that you have to apologize…people are just toready to pounce on everything!!!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:32 am

  22. Mary Ross

    NO OFFENSE. I UNDERSTOOD JUST WHAT YOU MEANT.

    HAPPY THANKSGIVING

    November 21, 2018 at 8:33 am

  23. Mary

    Mary, my husband and I had a good chuckle from your posting. I took it to mean exactly what you meant it to mean. Thank you for brightening my day with this and all your other postings. Happy Thanksgiving!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:33 am

  24. Sally

    You might find this a refreshing perspective: https://www.nysun.com/foreign/why-i-am-undeterred-on-climate/90469/

    November 21, 2018 at 8:34 am

  25. Sheila

    I thought your post was very clever! People have to get a life. Keep up the good work. I enjoy your emails.

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Sheila Sent from my iPad

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:37 am

  26. Martha

    Some people need to lighten up just a little. Don’t worry about offending most of us with a little humor. Happy Thanksgiving.

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:37 am

  27. BROOKE BEAIRD

    as a man, I just always appreciated even being considered.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:41 am

  28. Susan Guilford

    No offense taken! Your posts are always appreciated. Thank you for them.

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:07 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 8:46 am

  29. Susan Lovering

    Right on, Mary; I agree with you 100%. I hope that girl told those guys she had other turkeys to roast and strutted off into the food patch.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:46 am

  30. You did not offend me. I can’t imagine you trying to offend anyone. I have learned so much from your blogs and thank you for that!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:47 am

  31. Linda Aaron

    Have followed Naturally Curious for many years although I haven’t commented before. I loved the turkey post and found various meanings in it, none of them offensive. Linda

    November 21, 2018 at 8:47 am

  32. Susan

    I was not offended at all. She did the choosing!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:48 am

  33. jnelon

    Whomever you offended needs to lighten up. Classic example of over sensitivity to things, and another episode of PC gone wrong. Sorry this happened to you.

    The image was outstanding. Another example of a “picture is worth a thou . ..”

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    November 21, 2018 at 8:53 am

  34. Jill Oneglia

    I know In the animal world the female always has the choice. The female chooses the strongest and healthiest male so that the species survives. I enjoy your posts. Happy Thanksgiving Mary.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:54 am

  35. Leslie English

    it would be great if people would lighten up and not be so grim all the time! It’s a lovely photo! (from a survivor of sexual abuse)

    November 21, 2018 at 8:56 am

  36. Angela Garand

    I liked your post today!

    November 21, 2018 at 8:57 am

  37. Nadine Lada

    I took your post the way you meant it. Freedom to choose IS power–professionally, politically, and sexually.

    November 21, 2018 at 8:58 am

  38. Kay

    Your appreciation of the natural world plus your dedication to sharing with all of us, along with your delightful sense of humor, is truly something to be thankful for this season and all year round! Happy Thanksgiving, Mary

    November 21, 2018 at 9:01 am

  39. Guy Stoye

    Very good post, Mary! Surely no negative interpretations taken. We have sometimes had the turkeys coming in under the bird feeders and watched with great interest and amusement the antics of the Toms and hens.

    November 21, 2018 at 9:07 am

  40. James Pelletier

    Well, Mary, a happy Thanksgiving to you as well.  As for someone taking offense, who knows why someone was offended; but seems to me folks are way to inclined to take offense these days….. Enjoy the day, Jim

    November 21, 2018 at 9:09 am

  41. Tess Gouvin

    god bless you and thanks for all that you are!!

    tess

    > WordPress.com

    November 21, 2018 at 9:13 am

  42. Anne Woodhull

    No offense on my part. I am a “metoo” person for sure, and would instinctively know that you were as well. All your posts reflect a sensitivity, a sensibility, that would reflect justice in all realms, salamander, monarch butterfly , grandchild, women, female turkey. .. .I am grateful for this attention to women in this time, and grateful for all you bring forth in your eye on the natural world.
    I celebrate you.
    Annie

    November 21, 2018 at 9:20 am

  43. Pam Jackson

    I loved the turkey photo and found it rather humorous! I’m afraid some of the younger generation get bent out of shape at the darndest things and are too sensitive, always looking at their navel. Happy Thanksgiving to you too!

    November 21, 2018 at 9:23 am

  44. Mikey

    Mary, you have brought so much good will and happiness to our area i cant imagine anyone taking your comments with anything but humor. I don’t want to be insensitive to sexual abuse (ive seen it first hand) but I think your post was great! Everyone, have a great thanksgiving

    November 21, 2018 at 9:23 am

  45. Lucinda

    Mary you are amazing and I am thankful for all of your postings! I am a MeToo and I only found humor and I shared it. I thought it was GREAT! Wishing you love and joy.

    November 21, 2018 at 9:30 am

  46. Libbet Cone

    I thought the photo was delightful..just sayin’

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    November 21, 2018 at 9:38 am

  47. Will Lange

    Well, now you’ve offended me, Mary, by using “infer” where you meant “imply.” Nevertheless, I hope you have wonderful holidays.

    November 21, 2018 at 9:38 am

  48. Just weighing in here to say, as a woman, a mother of a girl and someone who has been preyed upon countless times by certain predator men, I appreciated your metoo photo and took it as women’s empowerment and I love how she looks neither impressed nor intimidated by the 3 males vying for her attention. Thank you for your blog. It is one of the few that has nothing to do with my business that I read every single day. I love your tidbits of information to fulfill my naturally curious nature. Happy Thanksgiving.

    November 21, 2018 at 9:47 am

  49. Carol Abbey

    Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Some people are way too sensitive. I loved the photo. Carol Abbey

    On Wed, 21 Nov 2018 at 08:07, Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 9:50 am

  50. Kathie Coburn

    Mary I’m sorry that someone didn’t like your comment you are a wonderful person keep up the good work Kathie Coburn

    November 21, 2018 at 10:20 am

  51. Nancy Malcolm

    i loved it!

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:07 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 10:24 am

  52. Reuben

    Your comment at the bottom of the great turkey photo was totally fine. And the hen does have the power to choose between the flamboyant, puffy, aggressive and competing males prancing in front of her.

    I’ve seen three males doing the same thing in our back yard and it’s pretty funny seeing them shimmy, shake, gobble, flap their wings and dance trying to get the hens attention, who appear to care less as they feed on cracked corn that I put out. The only thing missing are bad one liners (but of course in turkey talk, they may have them).

    November 21, 2018 at 10:26 am

  53. jenna

    Mary, I loved your turkey Me Too post!! And I have forwarded it to my friends.
    ________________________________

    November 21, 2018 at 10:30 am

  54. Polly Tafrate

    Not offended—thought it was spot on!

    Sent from my iPad

    November 21, 2018 at 10:39 am

  55. Rodrica Tilley

    No offense taken. Loved photo and your comment. #MeToo movement is about a wide range of offensive and disrespectful behaviour toward (mostly) female humans by (mostly) powerful men. Such a complex scope of meanings. Keep up the good work. I am Thankful for Naturally Curious every day. Happy Thanksgiving, Rodrica

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:07 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 10:43 am

  56. Susan Brown

    I thought your turkey post was humorous and eloquent and have shared with friends and family…..Thank you for your fascinating posts and photos. Wishing you and your family a peaceful Thanksgiving.

    November 21, 2018 at 10:52 am

  57. sue j

    I totally got it and appreciated the humor. Those turkeys know how to ask, unlike some human turkeys.

    November 21, 2018 at 10:55 am

  58. kiyalachsmith@gmail.com

    Just to let you know, this post made me laugh, and I totally saw it as empowering. I guess we all bring different things to what we read.

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    November 21, 2018 at 11:01 am

  59. Elizabeth Bazler

    Mary,

    So sorry that someone was offended, and your apology was spot on. Personally, the post offered me a great morning chuckle. You are such a treasure and I’m thankful to have your daily email provide a refreshing virtual connection to the natural world during the workday.

    May you and your family have much to be thankful for.

    Very respectfully,

    Beth Bazler

    November 21, 2018 at 11:14 am

  60. Mary Ogden

    I loved your turkey post! Humorous and empowering – feelings that can be in short supply these days.. Thank you!

    November 21, 2018 at 11:42 am

  61. Maureen Black

    I don’t see abuse here, thus no offense taken. I love your photos, informative posts and books! Thanks! Rinky Black Erving, MA

    On Wednesday, November 21, 2018, Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 11:56 am

  62. Gregg Lowell McCurdy

    DON’T apologize! I am a progressive person, but I’m sick and tired of intolerant, self-satisfied people who try to impose their personal sensitivities on others. They often, as here, see things that are not there while purposely trying to shame and make someone else feel uncomfortable. Not enough real life experience, would be my guess, or simply unable to keep their mouth shut when they should. That kind of thinking and trying to force conformity is exactly what’s wrong with the “other side.”

    Gregg Lowell McCurdy

    November 21, 2018 at 1:37 pm

  63. Dianne Wright

    Dear Mary, I LOVED it, it made me chuckle, it’s fine!!! Sincerely Dianne

    Sent from my iPad

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    November 21, 2018 at 2:07 pm

  64. Lydia Rogers

    I liked your comment and humor! Not offended at all.

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:06 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 21, 2018 at 2:16 pm

  65. Tara Johnson

    Hi Mary,

    I LOVED your post. It was both humorous and topical. I took it exactly how you intended. I’m sad you were put in a position to apologize. What has this world come to?

    Enjoy your Thanksgiving and know that the majority of your readers enjoyed the post and love your blog!!!!

    ~Tara Johnson Owner, Naturedigger

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    November 21, 2018 at 2:28 pm

  66. Ron Willoughby

    Your “offended” reader is symptomatic of how these times of political correctness have become ridiculous. Keep up the good work!

    November 21, 2018 at 2:48 pm

  67. Sally

    I’m a feminist. This post gave me a good chuckle. That hen was in command of those toms. Sally

    November 21, 2018 at 4:07 pm

  68. H. Griffin

    Knowing your sense of humor and believing the #Me Too means power to women in a broad sense, having been through what we’ve been through, I took it exactly as you meant it and sent it on to friends who thought it was hilarious.

    November 21, 2018 at 4:55 pm

  69. Mary McKenna

    Hi Mary,

    I also associate #MeToo with the increasing power of women! Hooray!

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Best, Mary

    > WordPress.com

    November 21, 2018 at 5:10 pm

  70. As a woman and one who has used #metoo I take no offence to you using that tag. I think that we are in times of great divide and there is little grey area left at this point of our history on planet earth. So please forgive the offended person, for they might need that right now. I hope they can move forward, as you are a perfect role model in moving forward. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family. Much love from Canada. Eat, laugh, love and enjoy!

    November 21, 2018 at 5:11 pm

  71. No worries.

    November 21, 2018 at 5:24 pm

  72. marc m connelly

    when people ask why I spend the majority of my time out in the woods my response often nowadays is that its to get away from the masses that feel the need to always be offended by something.

    November 21, 2018 at 9:14 pm

  73. Bridgit

    I totally understood and celebrated your meaning/intention with the hen per 3 toms photo. I loved it – thanks Mary!

    November 21, 2018 at 9:40 pm

  74. Geez….no offense here. Happy Thanksgiving to you.

    November 22, 2018 at 9:28 am

  75. Ford von Reyn

    The image was perfect, funny and clearly feminist.

    Thank you

    Sent from my iPhone

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    November 22, 2018 at 11:05 am

  76. Susie Peters

    Hi Mary, Just to let you know, I wasn’t offended in the least. Actually, my anthropomorphic interpretation was that the hen was thinking what idiots the males were…imagining that they were irresistible. The picture was quite a find! Happy post-Thanksgiving, and please know how grateful I am for *all* of your posts! Susie

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:06 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 24, 2018 at 9:51 am

  77. pooh to her…- I thought it was great!!

    On Wed, Nov 21, 2018 at 8:07 AM Naturally Curious with Mary Holland wrote:

    > Mary Holland posted: “I received an comment from a reader who took offense > at my “#MeToo” reference in today’s turkey post and felt it was insensitive > to the issue of sexual abuse. I (perhaps mistakenly) associate “#MeToo” > with the increasing power of women, not specifically ” >

    November 25, 2018 at 3:01 pm

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